Writings by Cole Huffman


Category: Parenting

XL Grace

Caleb, our 21-year-old son, has a drug and alcohol problem. On the inside of his left arm, Caleb sports a tattoo: XL. At first glance it looks like “extra large.” But it’s actually the Roman numeral for 40, as in Psalm 40, a psalm that has long articulated our hope for him. He knows that, and as a once-aspiring musician he thought it was cool that U2 put Psalm 40 to music on their War album (1983), and that Mom and Dad pray it for him. A friend once gave me an apt... Read More
Posted by Cole Huffman at Oct 25 | 0 comments
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Walnut Street

Is nostalgia wasteful pining? Being stuck in bygones, wistful for more of what isn’t and won’t be? Is it just our inner Uncle Rico throwing footballs at his tripod, readying his 40-year-old self to be a high school quarterback again? Nostalgia has even been considered an illness, as in acute homesickness. I detoured into my old neighborhood on the way to Birmingham recently. While it has its problems, to never experience nostalgia is a kind of willed amnesia. And anyway, of late... Read More
Posted by Cole Huffman at May 3 | 0 comments
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Forsaking Family Egotism

Children can be a person’s proudest possession. But in today’s climate, Joseph Epstein writes, it is far from clear who, between parents and children, possesses whom. In the same essay (“A Son at Tufts, A Daughter at Taffeta”), he employs the term “family egotism,” which he attributes to Tolstoy. Epstein says family egotism roughly approximates to not caring if the whole world goes to hell so long as all is well with our little Kevin. An internment camp... Read More
Posted by Cole Huffman at Jun 8 | 0 comments
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